In my work with men I have seen that 90% of men who suffer from premature ejaculation have a lot of negative self talk going on.
There are many detrimental emotions surrounding premature ejaculation. There is a lot of guilt, a lot of lack of self worth and a lot of anxiety about your loved one leaving you.
There are many detrimental emotions surrounding premature ejaculation. There is a lot of guilt, a lot of lack of self worth and a lot of anxiety about your loved one leaving you.
The first thing you have to know is that it’s not your fault.
There are many things you never had the opportunity to learn about sexuality.
These things are never addressed in the sexual education we received while growing up.
Nobody ever taught us this stuff.
I personally never received and sexual education that told me how to approach sexuality and how to masturbate in a way that helped me to have a good ejaculatory control.
Without this kind of knowledge we gain a lot of bad masturbatory habits especially in our teenage years when we learn to ejaculate quickly in order not to get caught. Unfortunately we carry this quick reflexive response with us into our adult years where we absolutely have no wish to come quickly anymore!
And as a result of the PE you start hitting yourself in the head telling yourself that you’re not good enough, that you’re not a man, that you should erase yourself of the surface of the planet etc. This is a shame, because instead of going straight to where the issue really lies; in the controlling of the ejaculatory reflex we wind up building up a whole cloud of trauma around the issue instead.
Unfortunately suffering from PE brings with it a whole host of detrimental emotions which need to be addressed first and foremost so we have the peace and clarity that is needed to lucidly start working where it really matters.
A list of the most common emotional issues among men who suffer from PE
To help you on the way I have provided a list of many of the emotions among men that I have helped and counseled. First you have to identify which emotion one applies to you and start actively working with that emotion to heal it and to let go of it. As long as you have these bad emotions surrounding your sexuality you literally channel your sexual energy into them. Bad emotions around your sexuality literally creates a kind of “fog” around your sexuality and prevents you from channeling your sexual energy to the higher more beneficial emotions such as strength, love, faith, devotion, happiness etc.
The most detrimental emotions that men face relating to their sexuality are as follows:
Premature ejaculation and Ignorance
Many men don’t know that premature ejaculation is a problem, don’t know how sexuality affects the quality of their lives and don’t care much either.
Premature ejaculation and Denial
Some men know they have a problem but refuse to accept it.
Premature ejaculation and Non communication
Many relationships die because men have a problem but will not speak about it with their loved ones. Women feel very lonely when met by the solid wall of a non communicative man.
Premature ejaculation and Guilt
Despite the modern times, many men still are guilty about sexuality. They think sex is dirty and would rather not deal with the issues. Guilt and denial are closely related.
Premature ejaculation and Frustration
When our sexual energy is not channeled properly it results in an emotion of frustration.
Premature ejaculation and Performance anxiety
Many men feel confident in life but all of a sudden when in front of a beautiful woman they lose all centering and self confidence. Being nervous gives weak erections and a feeling of being out of touch with your manhood which result in premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation and Masculinity issues
Nowadays men face many problems with masculinity. Men have become weaker and lost inner guidance and women have become over masculine to compensate.
Premature ejaculation and Over confidence
When in a lovemaking situation it can feel so good that the man gets greedy. He forgets to monitor his arousal levels and before he knows it, its game over.
Premature ejaculation and Stress/tension
If you have a stressed life you tense up in your body and your brain releases cortisol in your body. Stress makes you enter a parasympathetic nervous state which is the mode you are in when you ejaculate. Being calm and relaxed is a key factor in overcoming premature ejaculation.
Premature ejaculation that comes from Lack of Love
Another major cause of premature ejaculation is a feeling of lacking love. If you lack love you feel disengaged with life and you become distant and not present.
Premature ejaculation due to Lack of Growth
Premature Ejaculation issues also often come to men who feel stuck in their lives. If there is no growth, no enthusiasm, no feeling of achieving your life goals, the sexual energy does not rise and there will be a tendency for carelessness in ones approach to sexuality.
The first step to gaining sexual mastery is letting go these emotions. Clearing away the bad stories you tell yourself about your sexuality is half of the battle. Techniques that give you emotional relief should be an integral part of a daily exercise program that includes pelvic muscle exercises, breathing exercises, relaxation, mental control work etc.
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Clearing out these emotions and giving yourself some slack is much easier than you think and just 5-10 minutes of daily exercise can clear out this fog giving you new found enthusiasm and passion so you can go about the other exercises that are presented in the 12 week program. This simple emotional clearing is the first step in a 7 step process that will open your mind to a whole new world of sexual energy management not only curing premature ejaculation but also giving you a complete road map on how you can harness your sexuality to create amazing results in your life.
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